...follow the guideliness in life it will lead you to salvation...that's how you will be judged in life...

Always obey and follow the guidelines set before you, but always follow your heart too, because without that, you have nothing! It is your eternal guide, it is what will lead you to salvation! If that is how you feel and that is what you believe - then that is how you will be judged... in the eye's of God! If you feel it's wrong, then don't do it. Always do what's best, and what you feel is the right thing to do.